Author(s): Rob Sheffield

Biography & Memoir

What Is love? Great minds have been grappling with this question throughout the ages. According to Western philosopher Pat Benatar, love is a battlefield. Frank Sinatra would add that love is a tender trap. Love hurts. Love stinks. Love bites, love bleeds, love is the drug. The troubadours of our times agree: They want to know what love is, and they want you to show them. But the answer is simple: Love is a mix tape. In the 1990s, when alternative was suddenly mainstream, a shy music geek named Rob Sheffield met a hell-raising punk-rock girl named Rene, who was way too cool for him but fell in love with him anyway. He was tall. She was short. He was shy. She was a social butterfly. They had nothing in common except that they both loved music. Music brought them together and kept them together. And it was music that would help Rob through a sudden, unfathomable loss.

In Love is a Mix Tape, Rob, now a writer for Rolling Stone, uses the songs on fifteen mix tapes to tell the story of his brief time with Rene before she died suddenly of a pulmonary embolism at 31. From Elvis to Missy Elliott, the Rolling Stones to Yo La Tengo, the songs on these tapes make up the soundtrack to their lives. Rob Sheffield isn't a musician, he's a writer, and Love is a Mix Tape isn't a love song - but it might as well be. This is Rob's tribute to music, to the decade that shaped him, but most of all to one unforgettable woman. First published 2007.